FAILURE OR OPPORTUNITY
Series: The Destructive Power of Self-Inflicted Pressure
Failure is a matter of perspective. It is an interpretation. Let’s play a game called: Failure or Opportunity. Read the scenarios below and choose whether it is a failure or an opportunity.
You have an interview and don’t get the job.
a) a failure because you didn’t get the job
b) an opportunity to gain more experience and learn more about what job would be a good fit or not.
You cook a new recipe that doesn’t taste good
a) a failure because it didn’t taste good
b) an opportunity to get better at cooking and learn how to be kind to yourself when something doesn’t go how you want it to
You make a decision for your company that blows up in your face
a) a failure because it blew up in your face
b) an opportunity to be creative and rally your team to a new level of success against difficult odds
You have a conversation with a spouse that ends in an argument
a) a failure because it ended in an argument
b) an opportunity to find out why you got upset and why they did and find a way to come back to finish the conversation in a healthier way in the future
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Thanks for playing! I hope you noticed that for every situation there is a failure perspective and an opportunity perspective. I am not saying we don’t come up against real limitations sometimes, but when we do, we have a choice. We can easily be angry with ourselves for not reaching self-imposed expectations and feeling like a failure because of it. This creates intense pressure to never fail, or when we do fail, we carry that shame around with us. What will your perspective be?
Take the pressure off: by looking for the opportunities instead of staying trapped in a failure mindset