HOW DO I FIND MY TYPE?
Series: The Enneagram
First and foremost the Enneagram is a journey. It is not a test or assessment, it is not a teaching or book, it is a personal journey that you can choose to enter into or not.
We all have each type in us, but it is helpful to find the type we most resonate with. This is how I got started:
Years ago my best friend Dan and I were on a camping trip in the Upper Peninsula of Michigan. Views of beautiful two hundred foot cliffs plummeting into the azure blue (and freezing) water of Lake Superior were turned into gray mist from the down pouring rain the second day we were there. We found a little coffee shop in which we could escape the oppressive weather. We were just sitting down and began enjoying the warmth of the steaming coffee when Dan pulled a book from his backpack. He had a lopsided grin on his face as he said, “One of the things I was hoping to discuss on our trip is the Enneagram.” As a topic for discussion, the Enneagram had been in our circles for a while, but I had been wary of the popular new fad. I had even told Dan months before that, “I want to learn the Enneagram from an expert, not just from my own limited research.” Well… Dan plowed ahead, and good for him because it couldn’t have been a better introduction.
For the next few days, sitting on our camping chairs with fresh air on our faces and lake waves resounding in our ears, we took turns reading out loud to each other out of Richard Rohr’s book, The Enneagram: A Christian Perspective. We read from the types that most resonated for each of us. Because we know each other deeply and have journeyed so long together, we could offer keen insight for the other. We laughed knowingly, we cried empathetically and we squirmed at the weirdly comforting and at the same time disconcerting feeling of being known. I hold these memories as some of my most treasured.
A month later my wife and I went to Mexico for our ten-year anniversary and did the same thing. We laid by the ocean and read to each other from the book. It was beautiful connection and eye opening to understand each other at a greater depth. From there I read more books, listened to podcasts, and downloaded the Enneapp which I still refer to often. More importantly than any of that I had in-depth conversation with those who are closest to me as we pursued understanding ourselves and each other through this lens.
So… It is a journey. While there are a lot of blind spots when we assess ourselves, the Enneagram allows us the space and time of a journey to live in the questions and see what the next moment reveals. For some, taking a test or assessment helps and for others it is misleading. Some relate to certain books and others to different ones. Walking the journey with others who are on the same path is paramount. Finding a good and knowledgeable guide is a must as well.
A great place to start the journey is to look at the The Nine Types List and notice which of the Types most resonates with you based on the descriptions. Then listen to or read The Road Back to You by Ian Cron and Suzanne Stabile. Finally, take the Enneagram Institute RHETI Type Indicator Test and then Schedule Your Enneagram Session with Matt Today!.
Schedule Your Enneagram Session with Matt Today!
Deeper Ministry – The Nine Types List
The Road Back to You by Ian Cron and Suzanne Stabile
Enneagram Institute RHETI Type Indicator Test
Enneapp – A complete mobile Enneagram Guide
Center for Action and Contemplation Website
The Enneagram: A Christian Perspective by Richard Rohr and Andreas Ebert